There’s an expression I’ve always liked: “Don’t speak unless you can improve on the silence.” Wise words but rarely honored. Even I, quiet by nature, have a hard time abiding by them in situations where talking seems called for and where I could not often claim to be improving on the silence by talking. I have been to silent retreats where silence is expected and people go for days with hardly a word spoken and I found it an immense relief; wordless, I felt more peaceful and at home with myself; in the smiles exchanged I was accepted and accepting and felt closer to the others than I would have in a wordier world. A big part of the problem,...

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